Deciding to file for divorce is a major life decision. It can be stressful and overwhelming, and taking the wrong steps early on may lead to unintended legal or financial consequences.
Here are some practical Do’s and Don’ts to consider before filing for divorce in Missouri or Kansas:
What You Should Do Before Filing for Divorce
1. Build a Support System
Divorce can be both emotionally and legally complex. Identify trusted family members and friends who can provide support during this time. Having a strong support network can make a meaningful difference throughout the process.
2. Maintain Stability for Your Children
If children are involved, consistency is critical. Maintain regular routines for school, activities, and daily life to help minimize disruption and stress.
3. Prioritize Your Children’s Well-Being
Avoid placing children in the middle of conflict. Encourage a positive and healthy relationship with both parents whenever possible. Courts in both Missouri and Kansas prioritize the best interests of the child when making custody determinations.
4. Begin Thinking About a Parenting Plan
Courts typically require a parenting plan outlining custody and visitation schedules. Begin considering what arrangement best supports your child’s needs, taking into account school schedules, work obligations, and extracurricular activities.
5. Consult an Experienced Divorce Attorney Early
Speaking with an attorney before filing can help you understand your rights, obligations, and available options. An attorney can also help you prepare for issues such as:
- Child custody and parenting time
- Child support
- Division of marital property
- Spousal support (maintenance/alimony)
6. Gather Financial Documentation
Start organizing important financial records, including:
- Tax returns (last 2–3 years)
- Recent pay stubs
- Bank and retirement account statements
- Mortgage and loan documents
- Credit card statements
- Insurance policies
- Vehicle titles and property deeds
Being prepared will help your case proceed more efficiently and reduce surprises.
7. Create a Post-Divorce Budget
Understanding your current expenses—and anticipating your future financial needs—can help you make informed decisions during settlement negotiations.
8. Monitor Your Credit
Request a copy of your credit report and watch for unusual changes. This is especially important if you share financial accounts with your spouse.
What You Should Avoid Doing
1. Do Not Speak Negatively About Your Spouse in Front of Your Children
Courts take co-parenting behavior seriously. Negative comments or actions that interfere with the parent-child relationship may impact custody decisions.
2. Do Not Engage in Arguments Once the Process Begins
Divorce can heighten emotions, but escalating conflict can be counterproductive. Allow your attorney to handle legal matters and communication when appropriate.
3. Avoid Social Media Posts About Your Divorce
Statements, photos, or comments posted online may be used as evidence in your case. It is best to avoid discussing your divorce publicly.
4. Do Not Begin Dating During the Divorce Process
In some cases, dating before the divorce is finalized may complicate proceedings or be considered by the court when evaluating certain issues, including spousal support.
5. Do Not Make Major Financial Changes
Avoid:
- Making large purchases (vehicles, real estate, etc.)
- Opening new credit cards or loans
- Transferring or hiding assets
- Closing joint accounts
- Withdrawing significant funds without agreement
These actions may raise concerns with the court and could negatively affect your case.
Work With a Trusted Divorce Attorney
Every divorce is unique. The right legal guidance can help you avoid costly mistakes, reduce stress, and position you for the best possible outcome.
If you are considering filing for divorce in Missouri or Kansas, our firm is here to help you navigate each step with confidence.
Please contact us today to schedule a confidential consultation at: 816.792.8700
This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Every situation is different—consult an attorney for guidance specific to your case.